ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION MEDICATION AND REACTION TO TAKING
Needless to say, married men, or those in committed relationships, aren’t the only ones affected by ED. Single men suffer, too, and their feelings delve into another emotional arena. In Jason’s case, being single complicated his ED immeasurably. A forty-three-year-old man who had never married, this landscape architect had put his dating life on hold ever since ED had become a problem. Before that, he had enjoyed the company of women. While he hadn’t been searching for a commitment, he nonetheless tried to make each relationship as fulfilling as possible, both sexually and, to the extent that he was able, emotionally
“I have to tell you,” he said, “the thought of beginning a new relationship is very scary to me. I could be wrong, but I strongly feel that a woman might think less of me if I just wanted sex all the time. I like sex as much as the next guy, but I want to be more than a walking erection.”
The pill worked beautifully for Jason—as soon as he found a woman he really liked and trusted.
The emotional issues in his case were:
• concern that his partner would want him just for sex
• a worry that he would, therefore, have to be in a constant state of arousal
Think about your own feelings concerning:
• erectile problems, and whether they were present at the beginning of a relationship
• the fear of losing control during sex
• whether the pill could bring you closer to your partner
• the potential sexual reaction of your partner
• the possibility that a restoration of sexual function could enhance—or threaten—your situation
• your concern about a partner’s response to your sexual overtures and techniques
• how sexually demanding your partner is
• sexual desire and what it means to you
• sensory pleasure, and your capacity for it
• the difference, if any, between your anticipated relationship and how it has turned out in reality
Seriously evaluate whether you and your partner are in agreement about using the oral medications. They can affect your life in many ways and you owe it to yourselves to address issues that concern you both.
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