MAKING LOVE: PERFECTING YOUR TECHNIQUE
Some of the things women say about men indicate what they would like to see changed.
“I’d like him to touch me all over a lot more — more foreplay, more heavy petting, more kissing everywhere and more oral sex.”
“My partner thinks it’s ‘soft’ to kiss.” Men should be sensual as well as sexual and many feel uneasy about engaging in purely pleasurable activities. To overcome this, when giving caresses, think of the pleasure you are providing to a loved one. Most women find foreplay hugely enjoyable, and see hugs and kisses as the true signs of affection. Try to find your partner’s most sensitive areas and the kind of stimulation she prefers.
Don’t be afraid to relax and let your partner take the initiative. Let her know, either in words or gestures, what feels especially good and, if necessary, guide her hand with yours. Try to concentrate on what you feel and the proximity of her body as she touches you. Respond to your feelings by breathing more heavily, moving, or expressing pleasure verbally. Most women find a responsive man very exciting. Don’t feel that you have to be successful at every sexual encounter. Most women are quite sympathetic to an occasional failure, and may even view it as an opportunity to show their love.
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